Minnesota Prairie Roots

Writing and photography by Audrey Kletscher Helbling

Defining Valentine’s Day love February 14, 2014

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Floral bouquet full

SIX DAYS BEFORE VALENTINE’S DAY, as I shoveled snow from the driveway for the umpteenth time, my husband arrived home from work, opened the front passenger side door of the Chrysler and presented me with flowers.

Have I told you how much I love this man?

Floral bouquet, really close-up

He knows me so well, enough to realize that at that moment, on that Saturday afternoon, I needed this bouquet bursting in brilliant spring colors of mostly sunshine yellow and sweet orchid.

I love when he gives me flowers for no particular reason except a realization that I “need” them.

Floral bouquet, close-up

Now some women might protest such a gift as an unnecessary expense. Not me. I will claim and celebrate and embrace this symbol of my husband’s thoughtfulness, love and care.

He needs to give these flowers as much as I need to receive them. I will not deny him this joy.

To each of you this Valentine’s Day, I wish you such moments of thoughtfulness and love. You deserve them, whether you are in a committed relationship or not. You do not need to be “in love” to celebrate Valentine’s Day.

A friend and I recently discussed the relationship pressures we as a society place on young people. Typically this begins after high school graduation, with “So how are the boys/girls?” I myself have asked this. I should know better because I, too, was subjected to such questioning 30-plus years ago. I married at nearly 26, considered “old” by 1982 standards, “young” by today’s.

Since that conversation, I’ve vowed not to knowingly place such pressure on others. Rather, I will focus on the individual, his/her interests and life. That is cause to celebrate. We are each our own person, whether in a romantic relationship or not.

This February 14, consider the broader definition of Valentine’s Day. It is not all about romance. It is also about the care and love between a child and a parent, friends, siblings, co-workers, neighbors…

It is, too, about loving and respecting ourselves as unique individuals created and loved by God.

© Copyright 2014 Audrey Kletscher Helbling


23 Responses to “Defining Valentine’s Day love”

  1. Allan Says:

    Happy Valentines Day to all! Speaking of gifts for my wife, I wanted to buy her favorite flower, but I couldn’t remember if it was Gold Medal or Pillsbury. Seriously, I bought her peach colored Roses, her favorite. I think? Oy Vey!! Just kidding.

    • Oh, Allan, thanks for starting my Valentine’s Day with a laugh. You are serious about buying your wife the peach roses, though, right?

      • Allan Says:

        Indeed, I bought her peach colored long stem roses, her favorite. That color is not always available, but I make every effort to get them. She is very deserving of the “investment”, as she does so much for our family, and she is the love of my life!!!!

      • Ah, to be loved so. What a sweet expression of your love in the thoughtfulness of giving your beloved her favorite peach roses. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and your dear wife!

  2. treadlemusic Says:

    Amen!!! The flowers are ‘loverly’ and definitely what is needed these days….especially. I have always thought that the placement of this special day was perfect!!! It gives us a point at which we can shift our view towards the next season and know that, yes, we have made it through another ‘white’ season! Hugs to you, dear Friend………….

  3. Beth Ann Says:

    The flowers are beautiful!!! What a thoughtful hubby you have—he gave them to you just when you needed a bit of color and smile in your life! I love that. You are right–it isn’t all about romance—but the romance part of Valentine’s Day is nice, too. 🙂

  4. Beautifully put, Audrey. Valentine’s Day should celebrate love for all! Happy Valentine’s Day to you.

  5. Beautiful – LOVE the pops of color – your man is a KEEPER:) Happy V Day – Happy Weekend!

  6. hotlyspiced Says:

    Those flowers are stunning and I’m sure having such a beautiful bouquet really brightened the gloomy winter’s day. Your husband is very thoughtful. Valentine’s Day has come and gone here. It’s not a big celebration in Oz and it tends to be only between romantic couples and so friends, children etc are excluded. We’ve never really celebrated it! Whoops! xx

    • Oh, Charlie, that is rather sad. Valentine’s Day is VERY BIG here in the States. Kids trade valentines in school, couples plan a special night of dining out and florists are selling flowers (especially a dozen red roses) like crazy.

      I just phoned my mom, 120 miles away, to wish her a Happy Valentine’s Day. Lots of cards sent here and wishes exchanged.

      Check my blog this evening for another Valentine’s Day surprise I carried out.

  7. Amen! I have a friend on facebook who just posted how much she hates Valentines Day because it makes her feel unloved (she’s never been married and is 45). Her hatred made me feel bad about enjoying the prospect of dinner and a movie with Colin tonight – a rare event! If she could just focus on other aspects of love, she’d be so much happier in her life.

    • Indeed, love offers many facets and I wanted to emphasize that. Enjoy your evening out with your husband.

      Check back tomorrow as I am publishing a post this evening on a Valentine’s Day surprise Randy and I pulled on friends.

  8. Thread crazy Says:

    Oh how beautiful the colors are…just giving us a preview of the spring to come. What a thoughtful and sweet hubby. See, you get to enjoy them all the days prior to valentine’s day! beautiful colors…

  9. Jackie Says:

    Well said Audrey! Love the flowers, such a thoughtful and caring man that Randy is, he knew just what you needed…and when you needed them. I love the spring like bouquet, so cheerful and a sign that there is hope for spring….for you 🙂

  10. Lanae Says:

    Your florist sister says that everyone should get flowers when ever they need a pick me up. Or to put a smile on a friends face.
    Just to let my nieces and nephews know Auntie Nae will always ask about a sweetheart in their lives. People asked me until I was 42.

    • Flowers work for me every time as a mood lifter.

      As far as asking family members about sweethearts, as long as it’s not a frequent focal point and interest is taken in other aspects of their lives, it can be OK. I just think in general that we as a society need to realize what undue pressure this puts upon young people when we question them about relationships.

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