Minnesota Prairie Roots

Writing and photography by Audrey Kletscher Helbling

One father’s story of finding hope in the midst of loss January 15, 2016

WHEN YOU READ Rebecca Kasper’s 2013 obituary, you learn of a young woman described as sweet, beautiful and always smiling. You read of a former Northfield High School athlete and of a student finishing her second year at Arizona State.

You read words of heartache and heartbreak expressed by friends and those who never knew Becky. You read condolences for her parents, sister and those who loved the 19-year-old.

And you would wonder, if you didn’t know the story of Becky’s death, why she passed away tragically on Tuesday, April 23, 2013. Becky was killed by her ex-boyfriend, now serving 30 years in prison for her murder.

Dan Kasper

Dan Kasper. Photo courtesy of Redeemer Lutheran Church/Dan Kasper.

But there’s more to the story. And that story will be shared at 2 p.m. on Sunday, January 31, at Redeemer Lutheran Church in Owatonna, 1054 Truman Avenue. Becky’s father, Dan Kasper, speaks about “Finding hope in the midst of loss.” He visited his daughter’s killer, Luis Soltero, in prison.

Dan Kasper’s presentation promises to be powerful as he talks about that prison meeting and what he has learned since his daughter’s murder.

Come and hear this compelling story of tragedy and of hope. You will also learn about the warning signs of domestic violence and more.


FYI: If you are in an abusive relationship, seek help. You are so worth it. Contact a local crisis resource center or women’s shelter for help and support. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. Leaving an abuser is the most dangerous time; have a plan to leave safely.

Additional information is available by clicking on any of these links:

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women


© Copyright 2016 Audrey Kletscher Helbling


20 Responses to “One father’s story of finding hope in the midst of loss”

  1. Dan Traun Says:

    It is a very strong person that can meet with the murderer of you child. Intentional is very different than accidental too. I’ve read accounts of how powerful it is to forgive the transgressor.

  2. Beth Ann Says:

    Another great reminder of why it is important to know what is available for those who are victims of domestic abuse. This looks like a really wonderful event for the community and I hope it is well attended. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Reading this gave me chills. Domestic violence is like a ripple in a body of water – it ripples out and affects multiple people. This needs to be talked about around the 8th grade level and possibly even the 5th grade into 6th grade level because dating can turn to possessiveness, abuse and even violence. Such a brave man to share his story and get the conversation started to help others cope or get out of a situation. Thanks for sharing and spreading the awareness on domestic violence.

  4. I pray this event reaches people it needs to reach.

  5. Missy's Crafty Mess Says:

    I’ve been waiting all day to comment yet I’m still at loss for words. My thoughts and prayers go out to the family

  6. hotlyspiced Says:

    What a tragic story. How sad that just when her life was about to begin, a murderer took it from her. Shocking. I’m amazed at how her father was able to visit her killer in prison! I’m sure there’s a lot to that story xx

  7. Sue Ready Says:

    I totally agree with one readers’ comment…

    You are doing a great job in educating your readers on domestic violence! Awareness, talking about it, educating, etc.

    I couldn’t have said it better!!

  8. Sweet Posy Dreams Says:

    I can’t imagine the pain of losing one’s child, especially in such a violent, senseless way.

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