I’M TRYING TO RECALL when I first began walking through cemeteries while out and about. But I think it started with my interest in old country churches. Cemeteries typically embrace historic countryside houses of worship. Baptized, confirmed, married and buried often defines those rooted in these rural churches. There’s a lot of history to uncover in a graveyard.
But it’s not just the history that interests me. It’s the art. And the stories, many of which remain unknown, unless you’re familiar with the deceased or connected in some way. Sometimes you can piece stories together by looking at dates, names and inscriptions.
As a creative, I’ve always been particularly interested in the artistic side of a cemetery, specifically the art of tombstones. Aged grave markers, most made of marble, feature images and words hand-chiseled by local stone masons. It is those long ago tombstones that focused a recent talk, “Understanding Gravestone Symbols and Icons,” by Oak Ridge Cemetery Association board member Tom Rent. An avid volunteer in the upkeep, preservation and restoration of the cemetery, Rent previously talked at the Rice County Historical Society about preserving Faribault’s oldest cemetery, one of 61 in the county.
Oak Ridge Cemetery, founded in 1857 on land donated by Levi Nutting, encompasses 10 acres, features 371 family names and is the burial site for 111 veterans, according to Rent. Rebecca Lougee, 29, who died of tuberculosis, was the first to be buried in the incorporated hilltop cemetery in October 1857. Earlier burials occurred before Oak Ridge officially became a cemetery. Many recognizable names from the early days of the Faribault area grace gravestones here: Andrews, Batchelder, Mott, Nutting, Roberds, Sheffield…
And on many of those tombstones, you will find symbols, a common way of communicating messages back in the day. I’d never really thought much about the meaning of the art I’ve seen on hundreds of aged tombstones beyond recognizing that lambs are on children’s grave markers. That Rent shared his knowledge and passion has opened a deeper understanding and appreciation of cemeteries for me.
He introduced his points about gravestone symbology simply by stating that symbols are something to which we have an emotional connection. For example, an eagle, a rose, a cross, are all symbols we can understand as representing freedom, love and faith. That makes sense to me.
And then Rent broke it down further—into floral, hand and animal symbols. I found this particularly revealing. For example, ivy, which symbolizes immortality and everlasting love, is very popular on aged tombstones, according to Rent. So are weeping willows, although I don’t recall ever seeing one chiseled into stone. The willow, indicating intense grief and mourning, is often carved onto the gravestone of someone who has died unexpectedly, he said. He referenced the long ago drowning of a young boy in Faribault’s mill pond. A rose, which is difficult to carve, symbolizes heavenly perfection. An unopened rose bud implies a person died way too young.
And then there are those hands, all those hands I’ve seen chiseled into marble tablet gravestones. The hand symbology traces back to Masonic handshakes mostly. Some are single hands, others handshakes, and all hold meaning. Rent shared that a heart on the palm of an open hand indicates charity and generosity. One such symbol decorates the Oak Ridge grave marker of Faribault police officer Henry Kaepernick, accidentally shot to death by a guard at the Faribault jail where the Younger brothers were held following a failed bank robbery in nearby Northfield on September 7, 1876.
Finally, Rent talked about animal symbols, reserved for children’s gravestones. He named lambs, sheep and doves, symbols of innocence and peace.
Of course, Rent shared much more in his hour-long presentation. But these are highlights, information I will take with me the next time I walk through the gates of a cemetery, symbolic of a threshold into the afterlife. I will no longer see just a daisy or a rose, a hand with a finger pointing heavenward, a sheep atop a child’s grave. Rather, I will see the emotional connections in the symbology. The choices made for gravestone art and messages, past and present, hold deep meaning, if only we pause to see, consider and honor.
© Copyright 2025 Audrey Kletscher Helbling
Minnesota Prairie Roots 
this is all so interesting, Audrey. I’ve recently been walking around a small old cemetery very near my home. it’s a pretty walk in all seasons and the more I walked there, the more detail I began to notice. I saw the dates from the past when people died young, perhaps a disease from way back when and the lambs I realized were the graves of young children. I’m sure there are many stories there
Thank you for mentioning the part about diseases. When you look at dates and ages, you can deduce that a disease or virus swept through the family, sometimes claiming all of the children. I am so thankful for vaccines and for the medical knowledge we have today.
We loved that you attended the talk and are now sharing some of what you learned! Thank you! TOM
You are welcome, Tom. I appreciate all you (and Laurie and others) do to upkeep Oak Ridge specifically. Your tombstone restoration project is especially worthy of noting. And, as you know, I really like the biographical markers. Thank you for all you do and for sharing with the rest of us through presentations like that at the historical society. I intend to use the “scavenger” hunt sheet during my next cemetery visit. I’m wondering if you might also consider printing off copies of the floral and hand symbology slides. That would be nice to have in hand during cemetery visits. Thank you.
Thank you for the kind words Audrey.
Tom, you’re welcome. Attachments don’t come through in comments. I will reference the photos I took. Maybe for future presentations consider printing handouts of the symbology info. I appreciate the “scavenger” hunt print out.
Just fascinating. I enjoy a graveyard wander as well. I like the stories.
There’s much to appreciate in a cemetery. You clearly understand that.
This is very interesting Audrey. It would be fun to have a brochure or reference sheet to bring along to cemetery visits, which we find ourselves doing too. 😉
I suggested that to Tom. It would be helpful to keep a reference sheet in the glovebox for those random cemetery stops.
I didn’t realize the symbols had specific meaning. I walk cemeteries as well (and read obituaries). Some think it’s morbid, but I think it’s historical, educational, and interesting. These descriptions add to the understanding of those buried there.
Another interest we share. Not morbid at all to us. I also read obits. They are sometimes quite fascinating. I like that they are more personal these days. And I suppose that’s because loved ones are writing them (and paying for them).
I always find your post like these very interesting and educational. However, today you may have just inspired the second half of my latest design idea. I am knitting something with a trinity stitch and now I must find a pattern that looks like a trinity rose.
I’m happy to inspire you in your creativity. I always like to attend talks like this one by Tom Rent. I learn something new. And since I enjoy walking through cemeteries, I am now much more informed.