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“Love Story” revisited April 30, 2014

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I now own a VHS copy of Love Story, purchased from the discard shelf at my local library.

I now own a VHS copy of Love Story, purchased from the discard shelf at my local library.

“Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

FORTY-FOUR YEARS AGO, with the release of the film Love Story, those words quickly became a part of pop culture. They rolled off the lips of adolescents like me, a then high school freshman, who could fall easily, blissfully in love with the latest movie star featured in Tiger Beat magazine.

Now, four-plus decades later, I don’t quite believe the “love means” phrase spoken twice in the award-winning Paramount Pictures flick starring Ryan O’Neal and Ali MacGraw. Love does mean asking for forgiveness when you’ve wronged a loved one.

Despite that change in perspective, I still rank Love Story by writer Erich Segal as one of my all-time favorite movies. The plot, on the surface, seems hopelessly simple: Wealthy Harvard student Oliver Barrett IV falls in love with Jennifer Cavelleri, a Radcliffe student from a working-class family. Oliver’s father disapproves of Jenny and a rift develops between father and son. Eventually, Jenny dies of leukemia.

As a dreamy-eyed teen, I failed to see beyond the surface plot. But there’s so much more depth to this film than a romantic story that ends tragically. It just took decades, and numerous times viewing this movie, to figure that out. I had to get past the relationship between Oliver and Jenny, past my sadness over Jenny’s death, to understand.

So the last time I watched Love Story, just weeks ago, I really listened to the dialogue.

“I never see his face,” Oliver says of his father.

“Does he wear a mask?” Jenny asks.

“In a way,” Oliver replies.

That brief exchange speaks volumes to the stiff and formal relationship between Oliver and his father. The elder Barrett expects much of his son. But he does not expect him to marry below his social class.

“I mean she’s not some crazy hippie,” Oliver says of Jenny. I laugh when I hear that now. “Hippie” sounds so dated. But in 1970, when Love Story hit the big screen, rebellious, anti-establishment, free-loving, independent-thinking young people were, indeed, pegged as hippies.

“If you marry her now, I’ll not give you the time of day,” Oliver Barrett III tells his son.

So the line is drawn in the sand. Oliver chooses love over money and marries Jenny, even says in his wedding vows, “I give you my love, more precious than money.”

At this point in the movie, I nearly stand up and cheer, if not for my sadness over the broken relationship between father and son. Life is too short to sever ties with loved ones over differing opinions and expectations. Life is too short to choose money over love.

Surprisingly, I have not wept this time while watching Love Story. I wonder why. Perhaps it is because my approach to the film has been more analytical than emotional. I am also seeing, for the first time, two love stories (or lack thereof)—one between a man and a woman and the other between a father and son.

And I have been caught up in noticing the details—the rotary dial phone, the over-sized dark eyeglasses, the mini-skirts—that denote this as a 1970 film. I am taking in the beautiful winter scenery; the instrumental theme music, the lyrics “How do I begin to tell the story of my love,” replaying in my mind; and the one word in the film, “preppie,” that still irritates me after four decades.

I am regretting, too, that I no longer have the black and white poster of Ryan O’Neal and Ali MacGraw that once hung above my bed, in the lime green room with the candy stripe carpeting.

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10 Responses to ““Love Story” revisited”

  1. Dan Traun Says:

    I never have understood that phrase – love means never having to say you’re sorry. To more accurately reflect reality, it should perhaps read -love means having to say your are some often. I don’t recall apologizing to my single-self all those years. Sorry is very present in my vocabulary these days though 🙂

    • I wonder if it means you shouldn’t have to say you’re sorry because you shouldn’t “wrong” your loved one in the first place. But we know that’s not possible. We’re all human and we all do/say things for which we need to apologize.

  2. Jackie Says:

    I was 10 when the movie came out, I was climbing trees and playing ball with the boys but far from thinking about “love” at this age. I have to say I have never watched it but I have heard of it. I think it would be fun to rent (if they still rent it) and watch it. Rick doesn’t think he’s seen it either, “maybe bits and pieces” he says. Donny Osmond and David Cassidy and Leif Garrett were my Tiger Beat true loves in 1975….Ha, guess I was starting to think about more than climbing trees.

    • Oh, yes, you were thinking about more than climbing trees. I didn’t get Tiger Beat magazine, but my cousin Joyce did. She was the same age as me, but way more mature (she had older sisters). So whenever our family visited Joyce’s family, the two of us would sit/lie on her bed and pour through the pages of Tiger Beat. Such memories… David Cassidy was also one of my heart throbs.

  3. shalilah2002 Says:

    I think I saw that movie. I think I was in love with love. Also I would love to see are make.

  4. Hello and great blog as always. Love that movie and the quip about ‘hippies’. When I was a young teen I lived in upstate NY. We lived east of Owego/Binghamton and near old Rte 17. Hippies were traveling west to Woodstock. I can remember the feelings that that movie shared. Sadly though the Hippie movement was derailed and many of those who pick Love ended up picking Money.

    I am a conservative but at the same time cannot imagine letting people starve of remain homeless. My call in the context of this comment is to help realizing that notion of love and social justice has seemed to disappear behind the curtain of greed and political agendas.

  5. hotlyspiced Says:

    It’s a favourite movie of mine too but I did think I was very sophisticated when I watched it as I was quite young at the time! It’s true it is brilliantly written and I do remember Ali McGraw’s character calls him ‘Preppie’ and that horrific scene when he has to go to his father to ask for money and his father flippantly thinks it’s because he’s ‘got some girl in trouble’. A brilliant film and thanks for bringing back the memories – I haven’t seen it in a while! xx


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