Minnesota Prairie Roots

Writing and photography by Audrey Kletscher Helbling

February family birthdays February 8, 2019

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One of my all-time favorite photos of my son at age 5. Minnesota Prairie Roots file photo.

 

FEBRUARY 9 AND 10 HOLD importance for me. They are the dates two of my three children, now all adults, were born. The daughter arrived first, a second daughter 21 months later in November and then the son on February 9, the day before his oldest sister’s eighth birthday.

Yes, I was a busy mom. There never seemed to be time for myself or enough time in a day. Something always needed doing. Someone always needed help or attention. I’m not complaining, just telling it like it was.

I miss those days. I miss my kids. But I did my job, as best I could, raising them to be independent adults. The daughter is married, a busy mother of two, including a newborn. I love watching her with her daughter and son. She’s attentive, loving, caring and just a really good mom.

 

My eldest daughter at three months old. Minnesota Prairie Roots file photo.

 

Sometimes when I look at my granddaughter, I glimpse Amber at the same age. There’s a certain way Izzy will act or a profile I’ll catch or a look I’ll see that makes me think for a moment that I’m watching my eldest daughter. What a gift to experience that timeless moment.

With my son, who lives way too far away from Minnesota in Boston, I remember most the moment he arrived home from school. Nearly daily Caleb asked for a hug. He didn’t need to ask. I would have given him one. But to hear his sweet request, oh, what joy that brought this mama. I miss his hugs. Whenever he’s back for a visit, I grab all the hugs I can to hold emotionally close in his absence.

There will be lots of hugs in the next few days as Caleb flies in for a short visit, totally unexpected. It will be the first time since 2012 that we’ve been together on his birthday. I’m excited.

Because of distance and/or busyness of life, I seldom celebrate my kids’ birthdays with them. It just is not possible. But that doesn’t change how I feel about their birthdays. Their births opened my heart to a love that is intuitive and deep and unconditional—a mother’s love.

Happy birthday, Amber and Caleb! I love you both always. And I look forward to celebrating with both of you this weekend. My mama’s heart is happy.

© Copyright 2019 Audrey Kletscher Helbling

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18 Responses to “February family birthdays”

  1. Almost Iowa Says:

    Love the sunglasses. Kids get all the cool stuff.

    As for raising children, how does something that seems like it will last forever, go by so fast.

  2. Your oldest shares a birthday with my youngest. Enjoy your weekend of celebrations.😊

  3. So SWEET – Happy Birthday You Two!!!

    When my family is together we take at least one day to celebrate important milestones with a home cooked meal and home made dessert with ice cream. With miles separating us throughout the year we celebrate when we come together again.

    Happy Weekend – Enjoy 🙂

  4. Lovely post. Happy Birthday to both your children and to their mom (because mom’s appreciate them even more). My daughter celebrates her 27th on 2/21. Enjoy!

  5. Valerie Says:

    Enjoy your special times together this weekend! How wonderful!

    • We absolutely will. I just hope I-35 is clear by travel time to the airport tomorrow. Randy reports a sales rep observed gridlock in both directions around noon today due to the ice-covered roadway and resulting accidents.

  6. Oh, I’m so happy for you Audrey. How exciting for you and Randy to have Caleb home over his birthday…Happy celebrating and get all the hugs your can.

  7. Brenda R Says:

    How wonderful that you’re going to be having an unexpected family weekend this weekend! Our youngest son, who just moved to Indiana in late September, also has a February birthday on the 12th. Just before Christmas he asked if we would want to come down next weekend for a work related event he is involved with. With the dates being in close proximity to his birthday as well as Presidents Day weekend, I’m excited to say we’re leaving for Indiana next Thursday afternoon! Can’t wait to see him and meet the many people he has gotten to know since he’s been there!
    You said it correctly when you said you tried to raise them as independent adults! That is the best thing a parent can do! Give advice when needed & help when needed, but let them make their own decisions.
    Have a great weekend and enjoy all those hugs! 😀

  8. Bella Says:

    Enjoy your visit and are you having a family celebration complete with cake and singing? .

    • We picked Caleb up from the airport Saturday evening then headed straight for Amber’s house for dinner, followed by cake with candles and, yes, singing. It was a wonderful evening. If my other daughter had been there, it would have been perfect.


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