IT’S EASY TO IDEALIZE motherhood. To paint a portrait of an infinitely loving and nurturing mother. Always calm. Always kind. Always putting her children first.
But the reality is that being a mom does not mean being perfect. No one is. Perfect, that is.
So this Mother’s Day, I honor all those women who are moms. Not some idealistic version of a perfect mother. But rather a mother who does her best to embrace motherhood and love those entrusted to her care.
As the mother of three now grown adult children and two beautiful grandchildren, I have a little experience in the mothering department. That doesn’t make me an expert. It just lends more authenticity to my words, to my efforts to give my children roots and wings.
I love my three. Two daughters born 21 months apart. And then the son born seven years and 364 days after my eldest. Yes, she celebrated her birthday in the hospital with her newborn brother.
As a stay-at-home mom, I found raising kids both challenging and rewarding. I expect most moms would say that. Tantrums and sibling rivalry and strong-willed children can test any mother’s patience. But then there were the moments of children snuggled next to me or on my lap while I read books. First, simple Little Golden Book storybooks. Then the Little House series. The Betsy-Tacy series. And more.
And the moments of delight. Like the morning I caught my daughters eating just-baked chocolate chip cookies in a corner of the kitchen…after I’d told them to wait until after lunch for a treat. My oldest daughter pulled a chair to the counter and grabbed two cookies for herself and her sister. I secretly admired her determination. And her looking out for her sister.
I wanted to raise children to think creatively, to forge their own paths. To care about others. And they did. When the eldest, during her freshman year of college, informed us that she was going on a mission trip to Paraguay, I asked, “Where is Paraguay?” And soon the second daughter followed, journeying to New Orleans to help with clean-up after Hurricane Katrina. Twice. Then, after college, she moved to Argentina for six months.
The son, too, traveled, to attend college and work in Boston for five years. I disliked having him so far from Minnesota. But I respected his choice and my need to let go. Later, he would travel to a professional conference in Japan and then to Europe.
Certainly, there have been challenges through the years. Difficult times. Plenty of tears and angst and worry. The morning my then 12-year-old son was struck by a car while crossing the street to his school bus stop ranks as an especially terrifying moment. That hit-and-run occurred just days before Mother’s Day 2006. Thankfully, he received only minor injuries. Yet, it was a horrible experience. My heart hurts for all mothers who have lost children.
Although my kids are long-gone from home, my love and care for them remains as strong as ever. I want the best for them. Happiness. Joy. Purpose. To love and be loved. I would move mountains for them, as cliché as that sounds. I expect my mom felt the same.
To all the moms out there, including my mom and my eldest (the mother of my grandchildren), Happy Mother’s Day! You are valued, loved, cherished and appreciated.
© Copyright 2021 Audrey Kletscher Helbling
Beautiful post, Audrey.
Thank you, Beth Ann. I know you’ll be thinking of, and missing, your mother. Those “firsts” are always especially emotionally difficult.
Happy Mother’s Day Audrey.
Thank you, Valerie. I hope you have a lovely day.
Love the picture’s of your family, especially the ones of you and your Mother. Happy Mother’s Day Audrey.
Thank you, Judy. I have more current photos of me with my mom. But her health has deteriorated substantially, so I prefer to remember how she looked just a few short years ago.
I hope you had a nice mother’s day Audrey. Being a momma is not for the faint-of-heart, it’s hard but what a joy to influence the ones we brought into this world. You have 3 wonderful children, they are blessed by a momma who is supportive and cares in the deepest way. Loved reading your post!
Thank you, Jackie. Yes, I had a wonderful Mother’s Day with Amber and family. I hope you experienced the same.
A belated Happy Mother’s Day, Audrey! I hope You enjoyed yourself. We were delighted to welcome our kids inside our house for dinner for the first time in over a year. Thank you, vaccines!
Oh, Kathleen, I can only imagine the joy you felt in welcoming your kids into your house for dinner. I’m incredibly happy for you. And, yes, thank you vaccines!
I had a wonderful day with our eldest and her family. Brunch. Time at the park. Lots of hugs and love all around.