AS THE DAUGHTER of a U.S. Army infantryman who fought on the front lines during the Korean War, I find myself drawn to veterans’ memorials. They seem a sacred space, a place where bravery, service, strength, sacrifice and grief mingle.
Every memorial I’ve visited in southern Minnesota differs from the next. Yet the essence remains the same as a site to honor those who have served, some ultimately dying in service to country.
Memorial Day marks a national holiday to remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice by losing their lives. Whether necessary or unnecessary, war is hard and awful. It claims lives, forever changes people, rewrites history, traumatizes. My dad would tell you that. I saw firsthand the trauma Dad experienced from serving in Korea. He killed the enemy, so close he could see the whites of their eyes. He saw his friend blown apart on the battlefield the day before Ray was to return home to his wife and infant daughter in Nebraska.
For every story like this, thousands more exist.
And so every veterans’ memorial is a tribute to the men and women who are more than names and dates on plaques, but individuals with loving families, friends and communities. Individuals with stories from their time in service.
If I let my mind wander while viewing a veterans’ memorial, I can imagine the stories. Inspirational quotes, photos and life-size statues of military members make it easier for me to see beyond the names and dates to real people.
At every southern Minnesota veterans’ memorial I’ve visited, and I’ve been to a lot, statues have only portrayed male soldiers. Until recently. The Owatonna Veterans Memorial includes a female soldier. She stands next to a kneeling soldier with a battlefield cross. And on the far side of the memorial site stands a statue of a Vietnam War soldier carrying his fallen comrade draped across his shoulders.
“All gave some, some gave all.” Sgt. 1st Class Nicole Amor of White Bear Lake gave her all on March 1, 2026. She was among four American soldiers who died after a drone strike on a command center in Kuwait during the Iran War. The wife and mother of two was just days from returning home to Minnesota. Just like my dad’s 22-year-old friend Ray, who was killed in Korea 73 years ago on the day before he was to head home to Nebraska.
This Memorial Day, as this country is once again engaged in war, I wonder how many more men and women will die. How many more names will be added to memorials around the country with plaques noting KIA (killed in action)?
Monday may mean simply a day off to some or the kick-off to summer for others. But Memorial Day is really about honoring the brave men and women who have died in service to country. It’s important to remember that, to attend a Memorial Day parade or program, to walk among gravestones, to visit a veterans’ memorial. To focus on gratitude. To grieve. To remember and honor those who “gave all.”
FYI: The Owatonna Veterans Memorial is located on the northwest corner of 18th Street and Austin Road by the Steele County History Center. The Moonlighters Exchange Club spearheaded the project and fundraising for the memorial dedicated in November 2023.
© Copyright 2026 Audrey Kletscher Helbling
Minnesota Prairie Roots 
In mermory of Army PFC Gordon M, Gunhus of Kenyon, MN who is buried out behind Gol Lutheran Church.= there. Thanks Audrey for that picture, I made the visit to his grave a number of years ago, Gordon was KIA (killed in action), which I found be doing genealogy. Yes, we are related. Many friends, family and others I know gave their lives in this country’s defense. An emotional song to those that served is the Wrong Side of Heaven (ref: You Tube). In the video, one will see stats of veteran’s suicide such as an Army SFC (relation from MN) who took his own life when it appeared he had everything to live for, a wife and at least 2 growing kids who is buried at Fort Sam Military Cemetery here in Texas. .
Unfortunately suicide remains an ongoing issue among veterans. We MUST continue to do all we can to prevent more. Good to hear from you, Gunny. I appreciate your specific reference to PFC Gordon M. Gunhus.
I had not seen the Veterans Memorial in Owatonna. I enjoyed the photos and comments.
It’s an impressive memorial.
this is so poignant, audrey. the memorials always bring me chills. i try to imagine each person, each family is impacted forever and each has their own story. i will always be grateful for their service and sacrifice. it was good that a female soldier is represented here, it’s a beginning and i wish for peace and no more wars and losses.
I hold that same wish for peace.
Memorials like these really put it all into perspective. Thanks for sharing.
They do and you are welcome.