
I CAME BECAUSE I CARE. I came because of my father, a Korean War veteran. And I came because it was the right thing to do—to set aside time on Veterans Day to honor the men and women who have served this country.

A crowd of several hundred gathered on the 11th hour of the 11th day in the 11th month outside the Rice County courthouse in Faribault to listen to several speakers and to witness all the traditions of this sacred day.

Raising of the flags by the Color Guard. Speeches. Firing of guns by the Honor Guard. Playing of taps. Prayers.

While I wove around the edge of the crowd with my camera, I simultaneously listened. And the key message I took away is this: Listen. Listen to our veterans. Listen to their stories.

Don’t just thank them. But listen. Support. Honor them.

And when the topic turned to suicide and to the suicide prevention effort, Operation: 23 to Zero, that word popped up again. Listen.



In the center circle of the Rice County Veterans Memorial, boots sat, each representing a military veteran who took his/her life via suicide. Christopher from Faribault. David from Dawson. And so many others, gone too young. A red rose for each. A photo and a short bio offering a glimpse of their lives.

And then all around the county memorial, lining the sidewalks, paver upon paver upon paver placed in honor of a service member. So many names. So many loved ones. So many who carried the stories of military service.
Listen. I heard the steady drone of traffic pass by the courthouse, people going about their day as usual while veterans spoke. While we prayed and honored and thanked in our own quiet ways. While taps played and rifles boomed.

I expect in the silent moments in between, minds wandered to battlefields, to untold stories, to buddies and loved ones long gone. I found myself thinking of my dad serving on the frontlines during the Korean War. I expect others were doing the same, remembering, wishing perhaps that they had asked more questions. Listened.

Next to the courthouse, a group of students from Faribault Lutheran School gathered on the lawn, visually reinforcing one speaker’s directive that we need to tell the next generation of the sacrifices made.

On this day of honor it was good to pause. To step away from everyday life. To listen to the kids singing “God Bless America” as Steve Bonde sounded the song on his trumpet.

It was good to reflect. And when almost everyone dispersed, a few of us remained. Organizers cleaning up. Clusters of people chatting.

I followed the sidewalk to pavers marked by five small American flags. I knelt on the cement for a photo, noticing autumn leaves scattered upon the names and dates, the notations about military service. To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven…a time of war, and a time for peace.
© Copyright 2026 Audrey Kletscher Helbling




























































Memorial Day: Honoring those who “gave all” May 21, 2026
Tags: commentary, death, holiday, Iran War, Kenyon Veterans Memorial Park, killed in action, Korean War, Memorial Day, Minnesota, Nicole Amor, Owatonna, Owatonna Veterans Memorial, Ray Scheibe, statues, SVJ Creative Designs, veterans, veterans' memorials, war
AS THE DAUGHTER of a U.S. Army infantryman who fought on the front lines during the Korean War, I find myself drawn to veterans’ memorials. They seem a sacred space, a place where bravery, service, strength, sacrifice and grief mingle.
Every memorial I’ve visited in southern Minnesota differs from the next. Yet the essence remains the same as a site to honor those who have served, some ultimately dying in service to country.
Memorial Day marks a national holiday to remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice by losing their lives. Whether necessary or unnecessary, war is hard and awful. It claims lives, forever changes people, rewrites history, traumatizes. My dad would tell you that. I saw firsthand the trauma Dad experienced from serving in Korea. He killed the enemy, so close he could see the whites of their eyes. He saw his friend blown apart on the battlefield the day before Ray was to return home to his wife and infant daughter in Nebraska.
For every story like this, thousands more exist.
And so every veterans’ memorial is a tribute to the men and women who are more than names and dates on plaques, but individuals with loving families, friends and communities. Individuals with stories from their time in service.
If I let my mind wander while viewing a veterans’ memorial, I can imagine the stories. Inspirational quotes, photos and life-size statues of military members make it easier for me to see beyond the names and dates to real people.
At every southern Minnesota veterans’ memorial I’ve visited, and I’ve been to a lot, statues have only portrayed male soldiers. Until recently. The Owatonna Veterans Memorial includes a female soldier. She stands next to a kneeling soldier with a battlefield cross. And on the far side of the memorial site stands a statue of a Vietnam War soldier carrying his fallen comrade draped across his shoulders.
“All gave some, some gave all.” Sgt. 1st Class Nicole Amor of White Bear Lake gave her all on March 1, 2026. She was among four American soldiers who died after a drone strike on a command center in Kuwait during the Iran War. The wife and mother of two was just days from returning home to Minnesota. Just like my dad’s 22-year-old friend Ray, who was killed in Korea 73 years ago on the day before he was to head home to Nebraska.
This Memorial Day, as this country is once again engaged in war, I wonder how many more men and women will die. How many more names will be added to memorials around the country with plaques noting KIA (killed in action)?
Monday may mean simply a day off to some or the kick-off to summer for others. But Memorial Day is really about honoring the brave men and women who have died in service to country. It’s important to remember that, to attend a Memorial Day parade or program, to walk among gravestones, to visit a veterans’ memorial. To focus on gratitude. To grieve. To remember and honor those who “gave all.”
FYI: The Owatonna Veterans Memorial is located on the northwest corner of 18th Street and Austin Road by the Steele County History Center. The Moonlighters Exchange Club spearheaded the project and fundraising for the memorial dedicated in November 2023.
© Copyright 2026 Audrey Kletscher Helbling